Yesterday I wrote about my terrible self esteem.
Today, my 10 year old tells me that nobody wants to talk to her at lunch and recess.
She dropped this on me about 10 seconds before the bus pulled up.
At that point all I could do was hug her, kiss her forehead and tell her that we would talk when she gets back on Saturday.
So here I sit with tears in my eyes.
I always tell my girls to just be themselves.
But, let’s face it, in the world we live in, that is extremely difficult, and a lot of times brings on disappointment.
I grew up being different. I was quirky and weird, and still am.
Yes, I had friends, but I remember not liking the same popular things as most girls did.
I was bullied and picked on. I was made fun of and taunted.
It was hurtful.
We see it every day. Age has nothing to do with it.
And it all comes down to kids not accepting that no two people are the same.
Physically, emotionally and everything else in between.
My beautiful 10 year old doesn’t like all the same girly stuff that other girls do.
She dislikes dresses and frilly things.
She isn’t into dolls or boybands.
She loves to draw. She likes Five Nights at Freddys and playing Mario.
She doesn’t fit in with the typical norm.
I want her to know that it is ok.
It is not an easy road to travel.
I have never fit in.
I know how she feels.
Why does any kid have to feel ashamed and lonely for being themselves?
Why does society put so much emphasis on being a particular way?
It is truly heartbreaking and it saddens me that at only 10, my daughter is questioning herself because others are ignorant and judgmental.
Take a moment. Talk to her. See how big this little girls heart is.
She holds the door for strangers. She offers help when she sees other people in need.
She is bright and energetic.
She is a lovely little girl.
And the tears in my eyes begin to fall.
Please, I cannot stress it enough, help your children understand that no two people are alike.
A little girls heart and self esteem are in the balance.
Don’t make her feel like she has to change just so she can have friends and be included.
Because I have taught her that.
And I will continue to instill that lesson as long as I remain on this earth.
Love the people that don’t seem lovable. Accept those that may be different from you.
Don’t judge before you know the person, and always be yourself.
I love you baby girl, and I will always be your fan. You be you.